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Joanne's Key Points on why travel is good for relationships...

• Improving relationships is no different to building other new healthy behaviors. It involves working through 30 days of repetition and consistency.
• Old habits happen when those 30 days and longer turn into really poor habits of monotony with the possibility of getting stuck in toxic cycles of doldrums. When we are doing the same old habitual routines it can become boring but we just don't think about changing it. 
• To change this requires creating new exciting behaviors that are influenced by such things as adventure travel, which requires replacing old routines with new repetitious behaviour. 
• When we learn to ride a bike the skill gets filed into our implicit memory. That’s what can happen to our relationship. It gets filed in our subconscious memory. What we want to do is avoid having this amazing romantic perspective like you see in Hollywood, but having a conscious attentive decision to put our relationship in our conscious memory.
• That’s when we can refer to our love languages. Some partner's love language may be gifts. For another partner it could be words of affirmation. Others spending quality time together. Travel in this case can be an excellent way to spend one-on-one time with a partner to enjoy the shared experiences.
• That's when we start getting into great new habits of attending to each other's needs and having that one-on-one time. One great way to do that is in an environment where you're completely de-stressed. For many couples they find this starts as soon they get on the plane, or just being in a new environment.
• Research supports time and time again that when couples travel together, they create lasting shared experiences. While adventurous travel can be stressful, good stress means that couples are actually forced to work as a team. Couples can then look back and know that as a team they collaborated to achieve their goal together. That's where shared experiences are fondly recalled.
• If you're in a high stress phase in your life, there's nothing better than just choosing a break to relax by the pool. There's nothing wrong with spoiling yourself where everything's done for you. But on the flip side, it's really great to be able to enjoy your partner when you can experience resilience together and learn how to rely on each other.
• That's where it's really interesting to look at your partner's window of tolerance and learn how to work together in new and unfamiliar environments. An example is anticipating things that can go wrong from having less tolerance with lack of sleep, but where the other partner may actually rise to the challenge even on little sleep. This is one way where couples recognizing their differences can really work together can really compliment each other. Coming closer together to know you're using each other's strengths to the best of your ability.
• Avoid leaving it too late where you find yourself needing a counselor. Don’t wait. Taking a risk quite often pays off. Why not get out of those old habits of going to the same old places or not going anywhere at all, or get off the tour bus or stop going to that flop and drop resort and just get a little bit more spontaneous.

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